I have often wondered why more people don’t take steps to improve the quality of their lives through self improvement.There seems to be some kind of stigma attached to the idea of self help, counselling or anything vaguely psychological and yet in other areas of our lives we don’t think twice about spending time and money, often for much less gain.
Some of the most popular excuses I come up against are
- I don’t have enough time / it’s a waste of time
- It’s too difficult / too complicated / too painful
- It’s only for sad people
- I’m an adult now, it’s too late
- I’m not crazy!
- I can’t be bothered
In my experience the real reason why people don’t invest more time in themselves is usually fear and excuses like the ones above are just masking the truth.
Sometimes people are afraid of what they’ll find if they dig too deeply, sometimes it’s just the fear of the unknown. More often than not, there is an issue involving self esteem whereby they don’t feel that they are worth the time and effort.
The great thing is, that all the excuses you give yourself are removable obstacles and with just a little effort on your part, you can make real, lasting changes to the quality of your life.
If you have thought about self development or self improvement in the past and are not sure where to begin, or if you have reached a point in your self help quest and got stuck, why not download the free preview of my book, About Self Esteem and How to Be Confident by filling in the box to the right of this post? See if you find my style of writing easy to follow and try out one of the exercises for yourself. You may be surprised at the results!
Have a great day!