Posts tagged Self Esteem
The quote in the picture is from an 18th Century French writer and philosopher, Denis Diderot. Funny isn’t it that some things remain true no matter what the era you live in. Charles Darwin talked about ‘survival of the fittest’ but I think it’s much more accurate to say survivors are those best geared for adaptation.
In my work as a coach and when writing my books, I see my role as being to guide my clients/readers through change, to a more empowered and enlightened position. Interestingly, one of the first questions I am often asked is “Why do I need to change?” My answer is always the same!
Your current mindset, skill set, perspective, habits and behaviours have got you to where you are today. If you are looking for a coach, then I’d guess it’s because there is an aspect of your life that you’re not entirely happy with. If that is the case, then at least one of those things needs changing!
For many people the fear of change is so great that it over shadows their dislike of things the way they are.
Do you fear change? Do you find reasons and excuses why you can’t have, do or be something more than at present? Not enough time, not enough money, too many demands already, don’t deserve it, it’s too expensive/good/decadent for me… the list goes on, but in the vast majority of cases it comes down to the same old things. Low self esteem and/or self worth and fear.
Perhaps the first change you need, is to change the way you view change! That’s almost a tongue twister isn’t it! You need a change of perspective. The way you think and feel about change will determine your success rate and be the deciding factor in whether you even begin the process. Does the word change sound like a death knell to you? tie your stomach in knots and make it difficult to think clearly through the ensuing mental fog? or does it sound like an invitation to have fun, feel great and make progress towards a brighter future and achieving your goals?
Change doesn’t have to be scary. It can be liberating, exhilarating and life changing. It doesn’t mean you have to stop being who you are or change all the great things about you; it means doing more of those and being and even better version of yourself!
What one thing would you like to change if you could and what’s holding you back? I’d love to hear so please do leave a comment below.
As parents we constantly put our children first, often going without ourselves in order to give to them the best we can. We do this because we love them and want to be the best parents we can.
If I was to say to you, that you may be creating all kinds of problems for your children and even limiting their potential, you may think me rude or harsh. That isn’t my intention. You see your example is perhaps the most important gift and lesson that you will ever give your children. From the day they are born they are watching you and learning from you. Seeing how you interact with others, how you behave in different situations and how much, or little, you value yourself.
Many of the beliefs you now hold as the pillars of your life, you will have taken on from someone around you when you were very young. Someone who may not have known any better. The way you feel about yourself was created when you were too young to understand what was true and what wasn’t, and again, will reflect those who peopled your life.
If you want to be a great role model for your children, and I think almost all parents do even if they’re not sure how, then the best way to begin is by working on yourself.
Freeing yourself from limiting beliefs and increasing your self esteem and confidence will not only enrich your life, it will also set a shining example for your children, one which they can follow and which will allow them to lead more empowered and fulfilled lives.
If you have thought about self improvement and shied away, perhaps through lack of time, lack of motivation or because you ‘just couldn’t see the point’, I’d like to urge you to think again.
Do it for your children or do it for yourself. The results will be the same and you and everyone around you will benefit.
All you have to do is pop your name and email address into the form at the side of this page and I’ll send you whichever preview you are interested in. You can even have both if you want to!
Volume 1 deals with self esteem and confidence and how to improve them in either yourself or someone else.
Volume 2 is about using your mind differently, controlling your reactions and emotions and changing the way you feel about things from your past.
Of course I hope that you will then go on to buy the full version and that’s why I have included an exercise in each preview, so that you can see how I write and also how easy self help, self improvement, personal development, or whatever else you like to call it, really is.
I think, that if we all felt great about ourselves, took full responsibility for our lives and were able to communicate really well, that the world would be a much happier place. I’ve written these books to give you an easy way to start to make the necessary changes in your life to do just that.
The exercise in volume 2 is one I’ve developed myself whilst working with therapy and coaching clients and it works really well. So why not give it a go today!
Autumn is definitely approaching here in England. The leaves are turning colour and the warmth of the day disappears with the sun, so why not grab yourself a bargain to read in the evenings and begin to make those changes you’ve been thinking about?
For a limited period, the Kindle versions of Volume 1 (About Self Esteem and How to Be Confident) and Volume 2 (How to Change the Life You Have For the Life You Want) of The Self Help Bible are both practically free!
So what’s your next excuse for not starting to spend a little time on yourself and your personal development?
I guarantee that a little effort goes a long way where your mind is concerned….